Mental Wellness Challenge – 2021, July 14
Last week I challenged you to:
- BE KIND.
- Be appreciative of the differences in the needs of others. We are all on different paths.
- Practice patience. (I REALLY HAVE TO PRACTICE at patience lately…)
I hope you did OK with those pieces.
Kindness is a staple in my experience. I try to be as kind as I can – in whatever circumstances my days take me through. Sometimes I suck at it – and I need to make apologies… other times I am pretty good.
The differences in others is a piece that I have been working at quite a bit lately. I do try to keep in mind that I have zero idea what any other is living through… and this bit actually helps me with the kindness piece as well.
Patience… I have to be really sincere and admit that my practice of patience isn’t what it should be some of the time. Some of this rolls out to me not always feeling the best (NO – Now that’s a cop out… and I know it)… Ya – I just need to stay at the helm better and not let my “stuff” get the best of me. Patience is one of those tools for me that really impacts the number of apologies I need to make and impacts the quality of my experience as well.
My journey with “MY Ds” (ADHD, MDD, PDD, OCD, etc) hasn’t always been bad, neither has it always been stellar… My good and bad days are, I would imagine, like many other’s days. I’m not alone in my struggles… Over the past few months I’ve had the opportunity to share many facets of my journey with others – more – 1 on 1… phone calls, texting chats, etc. I am sincerely appreciative of the openness of others and the acceptance and understanding of those folks too.
I am soooo looking forward to my world getting closer to some semblance of normal. I miss the interactions I have with students, friends, and just folks out and about. I don’t think that a new normal will be exactly like things were in 2019… but – being able to have more interactions with folks on a more regular basis is something that I am excited for. IN DUE COURSE!!! (Little rant here – I can’t believe how our little corner of the province has just sort of – FLIPPED – back to no masks, no social distancing, no patience, no manners… I know that this doesn’t all wrap into the same package – but I was super concerned when – July 1st rolled around and downtown Cranbrook was like – the pandemic never happened… worse in some ways… I don’t think anyone from the BCCDC said it was all green lights from here on in… perhaps unclear communication… but WOW… just WOW…)
… Directions… seems to me that folks just don’t follow directions anymore… they don’t read letters and emails that are sent to them… they don’t listen to verbal direction… AAARRRGGGHHH… drives me bonkers… I know I am guilty of this sometimes too – but WOW… I’ve run up against this SO MUCH in the last while… maybe this is part and parcel of the whole mask thing too… Folks only hear what they want to hear, they only read what they want to read… and it seems that the whole world wants to take shortcuts around EVERYTHING… me included in some of that.
I’ve written letters outlining joining instructions for some courses that I teach… I am getting really flustered by the number of times recipients of those letters ask me the very questions that I have answered in the email… When’s the course? How much is the course? Where’s the course? Do we have to wear masks? Where can I buy the course manual? SOME PEOPLE ASK ALL THE QUESTIONS – and I answer them… but I always tell them – “As outlined in the joining instructions… yes, you are required to wear masks at this time…”
I’ve given step by step instructions to students – some read the directions, follow the directions and get along very well… others – just seem to try to fumble their way through… or end up consuming their precious lab time having to read everything to figure out what they are supposed to do, instead of following the directions and pre-reading the exercises… I’ve come to a place where I can’t push any harder… the students that follow the directions actually get the benefit of completing all the exercises and gain the experience and accompanying understanding of those exercises… the others that don’t follow the directions – they don’t get that same benefit…
Somewhere in here is energy that I really have to own… I have some of this in my own experience for sure… that said – I really tend to be more the other way – I read and re-read and make notes and am sometimes paralyzed by process and paralyzed by perfection… so I’m not certain what is worse…
Anyway – I have to agree that communications from the Province regarding the expectation for masks and distancing were lacking… and that’s a piece of this puzzle for certain. Dr. Henry and Adrian Dix could certainly have done a better job of the communication… although – my perception is that Horgan had a political angle he was trying to advance…
I see so many instances where directions, communications and expectations are so poorly communicated as well… I will have to try to make better that I do my own “better” job of communicating more clearly.
Patience I suppose… I don’t think I am going to lower my expectations… I’ll have to change my perspective… change my mind.
This week I’d like to challenge you to:
- READ THE DIRECTIONS. Take the time to communicate clearly – on both the sending end and on the receiving end.
- Take a breath. Don’t sweat the small stuff – and as Covey says – “It’s all small stuff.”
- Step back and take a look at the bigger picture.