Mental Wellness Challenge – 2021, Feb 19

Mental Wellness Challenge – 2021, Feb 19

WOW – What a frustrating week….

I didn’t have the opportunity to get my post out last Friday as there were issues with my website that were, for all intents and purposes, out of my control.

I “put my shoulder into it” and worked my way through the issues with very little – read that as zero – help from the SHAW Helpdesk.  Nevertheless, I figured out a way to get this little blog website working again and here it is…

Enough of that – on to my blog…


Last week my challenge was to:

  1. Do something special for someone you love. Do something special for yourself.  Make a hand written Thank You card… or maybe make a dinner or get up early and make a breakfast for your loved one… Take the time to do something “on purpose” for yourself and for someone you love.
  2. Drink 3 8oz glasses of water every day… at least that much… Get hydrated…
  3. Take one day – and do your best to shut off the technology… give yourself a tech holiday… no TV, no tablet, no Facebook, no YouTube, no tech… maybe use that time to reconnect with someone…

Now – you wouldn’t have had an opportunity to take part in this challenge as it would just be coming at you today… so I will share with you how I did.

On the “Do something special for someone you love.” Piece – I owe this one.  I was simply too distracted to give this important piece of my own challenge the effort that it deserves – so I’ll carry that forward for this week for myself again…  I did try to do something special for myself – in trying to take a bit better care of myself… I’ve been dealing with some tummy issues and I tried to look after that better.

 

The water piece was a home run for me… I have been drinking more and more water as a matter of routine.  I am finding that staying on the plus side of being hydrated helps me feel better… so I’ve been drinking lots and lots of water and other clear fluids…

 

I didn’t do very well with the no technology day – I was very “occupied” by trying to research solutions to my website issues… and I did… however that didn’t get me away from the tablet and computer as much as I wanted to.  Again – I’ll carry that forward for this week too… Perhaps – I’ll just redo the whole challenge again this week…


I’ve been experiencing a swelling gloominess, darkness, weight lately… and in my interactions with other folks, I know others have been experiencing a similar anxiousness, heaviness as well… I’m not going to suggest that I really know what anyone else is experiencing – simply because I can’t – but I sense that winter, the cold, “STAY AT HOME”, distance, isolation and all that is taking a toll.

A thread that I have been tugging on in my own experience is this: “There are parts of our society that aren’t tuned to the reality of the average persons experience…”  Hmmm…. that’s not particularly fair…  I used the word average and I don’t really know what average is… in our society…  take it to mean maybe the “run of the mill” soul…

Two facets of this idea come to mind… there are those that are getting so very tired of the restrictions in place from the pandemic that they are simply turning their attention away from their social responsibilities to others – and I understand that perspective a little… because I too am getting really tired of the restrictions… of teaching to a camera rather than a class of students, to visiting with my children and grandchildren over an internet connection… and all that… but I still hold onto the responsibility that others may not be as able to fight off this virus as I am and it’s my part to wear a mask, follow the restrictions… so that’s one facet…

Then, there’s another facet that I see – and that’s businesses, managers, owners, and the like – that want to see their businesses start coming back – some managers are pushing forward with pre-pandemic plans and programs (AND ALL OTHER STUFF LIKE THAT)… and well – much – so very much of the folks affected by political changes, business changes, etc simply don’t have a bunch of the tools and supports that they needs to be able to accomplish or accommodate the changes.  There’s other bits and pieces too, but these are two chunks that I have seen in my little world, the past while.

I get it… business has to continue or die… work still has to be done… projects and paperwork still need to happen…  What I’m feeling is – there’s movement to get our experience (my experience) back to a more normal mode – but there’s no consideration being seen regarding the lack of support, tools and abilities to get some of this stuff done.

So – for sure – my experience is going to so different than others… Hmmm an example of the two pieces I am getting at:

  • Masks, physical distance, pandemic stuff: I read an article where someone faked a negative COVID test.  I see people completing the BC THRIVE assessment without even thinking about what it is they are doing…   So, faking the negative COVID test – that’s clearly not good… by the same measure – a flippant response to the THRIVE assessment is just as bad, if not worse.
  • Businesses, government:  Without breaking a confidence – Some businesses are applying pre-pandemic goals targets to employees that don’t have the tools they need to be able to accomplish those goals.  It’s just not good.

All of this “stuff” isn’t helping me – or others that deal with depression, anxiety, or other disorders fight our way to wellness.  I do know that the only solution lies within me and I have to find it…. It’s just not as easy as that…

NOTHING OUT THERE CHANGES…

HOPEHANG ON, PAIN ENDS…

THE TINIEST LIGHT ILLUMINATES THE DARKEST SPACES…

I don’t know if anyone else is feeling those same pressures as I am… I don’t doubt that some are… I know I am not alone in dealing with the uncertainties that keep showing up on the horizon… I do know that I have a responsibility to myself to be gentle and kind with myself – to manage my own expectations and reactions…

In the past couple of blogs I’ve commented that I am feeling like I am starting to work my way out of my current “funk”…  I can say that is a truth.  I am working my way up the craggy slope…  I keep forgetting that sometimes I need to go down the rocks before I find a navigable path to better wellness…


This week – I’m going to offer the same challenge as I did last with one other piece…

  1. Support someone in your circle. A friend, a coworker, a loved one.  Reach out – listen, really listen.  Give someone you care about your time… let them have some of your time…  If stuff comes up for you, try to manage it and maybe deal with that later… maybe with another friend…
    • (I have to admit that this is a piece that I have to really work on… I had an instance this week where a friend shared a bit with me – the bit triggered me and I kinda spilled over… and they didn’t need to get spilled on… So – I know I need to do more listening… better listening and letting others have their time.)
  2. Do something special for someone you love. Do something special for yourself.  Make a hand written Thank You card… or maybe make a dinner or get up early and make a breakfast for your loved one… Take the time to do something “on purpose” for yourself and for someone you love.
  3. Drink 3 8oz glasses of water every day… at least that much… Get hydrated…
  4. Take one day – and do your best to shut off the technology… give yourself a tech holiday… no TV, no tablet, no Facebook, no YouTube, no tech… maybe use that time to reconnect with someone…

That’s it – I challenge you!!!