Mental Wellness Challenge – 2021, April 30

Mental Wellness Challenge – 2021, April 30

ZOOOOMMMMM April just scream by… I don’t know if its because I am getting older and my reference for the past is longer or if its just the way things are in my current… world… but months seem to have turned into weeks… weeks into days… VaaaaROOOMMM

Last week I put forward a challenge to:

  1. Laugh out loud. Read a funny book, watch a funny show, listen to a good joke… but laugh right out loud… the bigger the belly laugh, the better…
  2. Be aware. Take a couple of moments and consider how you are feeling, what you are feeling.
  3. Go for a walk… around the block, around the park… just go for a walk… breath some air.

I hope you knocked it out of the park!!! 100% homeruns – all round!

 

I had good success with my challenge.  I was able to get out for a walk or two, take care of some outside stuff, listen to some funny stories that had me laughing out loud… more than just a couple of times and I was able keep tabs on how I was getting along.  I suppose I could say that last week was “uneventful”… and that helped to keep things easier to manage.


Going to keep my post pretty short this week.  Maybe really short.. I’ll have to see how the words come to me.  I sometimes get my posts a little on the long side and they get to be on the longish side.

I am nervous about an impending SHAW upgrade that is coming along – I know it will likely affect my site and I have been taking steps to make sure that I can restore if I have to… Shaw says that it shouldn’t be an issue – last time… it was an issue… at least this time – they are providing heads up and some lead time…  I’ll have to see how things go… My site is pretty simple… purposefully… I don’t want all sorts of bells and whistles – just a place to stay on track… and have you come with me if you want to…

 

Patience has been bubbling up for me over and over again this past week.  One day – while delivering an online lesson – I noticed myself stumbling on words – in a hurry, anxious… I don’t know why that was happening – I was teaching about a concept that IS important and I did want my participants to get the concept… but that’s not new or unusual… (I don’t very often give lessons on things the students don’t need to know… HA!)…  I literally stopped myself.  I stopped talking – excused myself for a minute – backed up… told “my self” to be patient with “me” – took a couple of calming breaths and then went back to work.  This whole thing only took – maybe 15 seconds – but it made a real difference for me.  It was like I just needed that awareness that I didn’t have to be in a hurry – I had time, and I was doing a good job – just be patient… and my words started coming to me without the mumbo jumbo I had been experiencing…

Patience came up for me with my students too.  I have a couple of folks who tend to push the boundaries of what I accept as tolerable behavior.  They tend to not hand in work when it is due and then give excuses as to why they didn’t get the work done.  I am really generous with time for assignments – perhaps too generous (here I am… suggesting that it’s my responsibility for their work getting done on time) with time… I’ve been at this for long enough to know that the students that aren’t getting it done are – well – just not doing it… I know it… I know that it likely shouldn’t irk me so darn much but it does… In fact – with the amount of paper grading that I have to do – I should likely be pleased to be able to give an unsubmitted grade a zero score because its so easy to mark… but I don’t feel that way… I don’t want to do that… so I get impatient with these students…

So – the answer then – take a breath, think, reason, evaluate – and be patient.

It’s odd really – for someone as high strung as I am – I tend to be very patient with learners…  I can be super edgy in my office – but when I get into my classroom and start teaching – I have quite a lot of patience.  I teach hand skills in the lab – and when I do courses for myself.  It is in this particular realm that I find that I can have loads of patience…  If I have a student who is genuinely trying to obtain a skill, I can spend lots of energy encouraging, coaching and mentoring them.  In contrast – yup – there’s those students who aren’t trying – don’t have a real interested and are flippant about the acquisition of a skill… then… my patience runs pretty thin…

So – I have a contrast here between myself and others… I know I tend to be more patient with others than I am of myself… and that’s not really fair… to me or to others…  To me – this is very much like self love and self acceptance… both pieces of the same puzzle for me… I am learning – slowly for sure – but I am learning that it is not possible for me to truly have love for another if I don’t have love for myself.  I can’t be truly accepting of another if I don’t have acceptance of myself, I can’t have respect for another if I don’t first have respect for myself.  Not true, deep respect, love, acceptance and all the rest.  I think this comes through in the “who I am becoming” too.  I think my friends feel a stronger respect from me now that I have a deeper respect for myself, I believe my wife and family feel a stronger – more real – love from me – not that I am beginning to know and love myself.  The same goes for patience.

I am becoming more patient with myself.  I am starting be more willing to be patient.  Its not simple, its not automatic – YET… but I am working on it… I am working on the whole of me…

My mind does put me up against the reality that there’s more sand that has gone through my hour glass than still remains to come… and that gives me a sense of urgency… I don’t really understand that sense of urgency yet… I feel like I have so many things to do and I know there’s a limited amount of time and resources to accomplish them… BUT – I am learning that I can’t let the urgency that I feel rob me of the journey that I am on… I need to be patient… I’ll accomplish all that I am supposed to…


This week I’d like to challenge you to:

  1. Read something you wouldn’t normally set to. If you read novels, read a news paper… if you only read scholarly articles, read some fiction, read a poem… just move your mind outside of your “normal”.
  2. Look at your face in the mirror. Look right into your eyes and tell those eyes that you are wonderful.  Do this two times each day.  (This is a super powerful exercise for me.  I tend to struggle with value and worth… and this exercise helps me FEEL my own love.)
  3. Take 10 minutes… Look for shapes in the clouds… see how many animals or geometric shapes or whatever in the clouds… Enjoy the beauty that is right there…

That’s it, I challenge you!!!

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